How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a Confidence Coach?
To answer this question, it’s probably best I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story,” that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to prevent living a life always lacking in confidence and embrace the confident you and discovering the power within. That defining moment happened when I set out on a self-discovery journey in my twenties.
When I was young, I was that little girl running through the fields in muddy wellies and making dens and bonfires. Away with the faeries and in my own world, I was oblivious to fashion and unaware about the rules of society on women’s bodies. I was slower than my classmates to realise how people could judge others and had no boundaries for myself on how I would let others treat me. I was lucky to find dance as a way to express my emotions, connect to myself and I enjoyed the way I felt when I was on the dance floor. Off the stage, I had no confidence to stand up for myself. I was constantly letting people put me down, and other’s insecurities project onto my self-esteem. I could never conjure up the witty statement to fight back; instead, I would go inward. Take anyone’s criticisms as fact, not opinion.
My love of dance led me to study Musical Theatre. It was exciting, I loved acting, singing and dancing. However, so much emphasis was about body image. We were told to lose weight, tone up and get that six-pack toned dancer figure. As a result of the pressure, I became obsessed about what I looked like. From the clothes I wore to the shade of lipstick I was wearing, I constantly thought about my physique. I thought about what I was eating, how much I was working out and dieting until I binge ate. It was a never-ending battle of low confidence and lack of self-worth.
I’ll never forget the phone call, in my second year of college my dad passed away unexpectedly with a stroke. I didn’t realise how lucky I was growing up with such a loving Mum, Dad, and our special family home until suddenly everything changed! One week and he was gone, I was so overwhelmed trying to manage my body issues and dealing with the grief of losing my father, I completely lost my way. I spent all of my time trying to be this “perfect” dancer, but I ended up crumbling away inside. I was completely numb. I remember the tears rolling down my cheeks in ballet trying desperately hard to carry on. I hit breaking point, I just couldn’t do it anymore. Two friends turned to me and said where do you want to be right now? I said “New Zealand” - the other side of the world for my cousin's wedding. It was Thursday, the wedding was on Sunday.
I can’t even begin to tell you what it felt like booking that ticket, my whole body was shaking. I couldn’t bear the thought of someone stopping me or talking me out of not going. For the first time in my life, I did something I knew was right for me. I followed my inner voice. Taking off on that runway felt like breaking through sheer ice, I suddenly felt excitement for the first time in 6 months. Those two weeks in New Zealand gave me the hope I can keep going, and I managed to complete my diploma.
We moved our family home, and I started life auditioning in London. The pressures of body image got to me, after a few auditions my mind was not in a healthy place and I had to step back. I got into the London Olympic Opening Ceremonies which felt like a huge milestone even though it was unpaid, I didn’t care - I did it for love and worked as a PA part-time! I remember a family member turning to me around that time, soon after my Dads memorial concert (he was a composer), asking in a judgemental, condescending way - “When are you going to get yourself a proper job?” It hurt like a thousand daggers! It felt like everything I had put my heart and soul into was not good enough; therefore, I wasn’t good enough, and my head spiralled into self-sabotaging thoughts which stayed with me for several years. I managed to get an Assistant Cruise director role on a ship, and 6 months later after I returned, broke into TV starting out as a runner. Yet, those inner demons were still there, and I continued to battle with feelings of unworthiness! After many counselling sessions, I picked up the confidence to broaden my horizons and travel to Australia. Whilst working in TV over there, I found myself stuck behind a desk with no ability to create impact.
I moved to New Zealand to be with my boyfriend at the time. Moving country and starting all over again was tough, it’s like going to school for the first time, not knowing anyone but this time as an adult in a whole new country. I got mocked for my Vegan lifestyle at the time, and slowly but surely my dear boyfriend started picking at me. We moved to Canada and over time, the negative criticisms about who I am took its toll. Finally, he broke me down to the point where I was crying on the rocks, at the edge of the beach shouting to God WHY? (It was like something out of the movies) I was desperate for someone to love me for who I was. I had to let him go and went on a mission to re-build my confidence stronger than ever. I went back to the drawing board, took counselling to heal and reignited my love of dance again. I found my inner sexy and sassy and gained my confidence back. I used affirmations to boost my self-esteem and dove into the mindset work to jump into a new relationship with my body and mind.
I cleaned up my past and started teaching women entrepreneurs how they can do the same: I watched their confidence, energy and self-love for themselves grow too! Throughout my life, I’ve come across so many women who find it hard to love themselves and feel confident in their abilities and their own skin. I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other incredible women feel confident in who they are, no longer putting themselves down and re-training their thoughts to think abundantly; helping women to develop a healthy relationship with themselves through inner and outer love.
Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups: I lived my dream of travelling the world and learnt to be kind to myself, feel confident in who I am and enjoy my healthy lifestyle. I have created “Confidence 101”, a series of 9 modules that takes you step by step through a course; looking into your past story, releasing old negative thought patterns that no longer serve you to build the strongest confident version of you. We delve into mindset work, affirmations, the power of gratitude, nutrition, exercise, de-cluttering your spaces, relaxation techniques and self-care.
Who are your clients?
I work with people just like you who are:
What makes you different from other “Confidence Coaches?”
We will touch on nutrition and other “health-y” things, but more than ever you have me as a health and lifestyle expert and Confidence Coach. I work on the importance of self-care, positive, loving thoughts and building a healthy mind and body from a loving place. What that means to you is that you get a sassy-fun-meets-kick-your-butt coach. Your results are my results. I’ll be kind but will give you that push to remind you of why you are doing what you are doing.
I help those who want to feel confident in themselves. You may not like what I have to tell you – but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth. So much of what I coach is about being kind to yourself, having the courage to keep showing up and listening to your inner voice. Un-ravelling negative thoughts to build new ones takes time. You can change your thoughts in an instant and start healthier habits today, but it’s also all too easy to fall off and spiral back into old habits. You’re here to stop that cycle, with the tools I’ll teach you, together with the amazing support of the Facebook community of women, we will rise together. (PS… I’ll throw in a healthy dose of humour and inspiration, which always helps!)
What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?
The “Confidence 101” ™ course was created for people who are absolutely excited and dead serious about feeling abundantly confident in their body and themselves – it means not running around all day long, beating yourself up anymore saying: “I’m not good enough” It’s created for you to put systems in place within a few months (sometimes weeks!), which will eventually lead you to feeling empowered and confident.
Being an enthusiastic person myself, I’m known to work best with other enthusiastic women, people who are committed to their success no matter what who are super-ready to get going and just want to know exactly what steps to take to discover their confidence. My clients often tell me – “just tell me what to do and I’ll do it!” Consider what you’ll do with me to be a high-octane crash course on everything you need to know to feel confident in yourself. You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a very different way of thinking and full support while you achieve this incredibly exciting goal: feeling confident in who you are!
For what type of professionals are your programs NOT going to work?
Please know I’m very selective in who I work with, and I cherry-pick my clients, choosing to (gently) turn away people who aren’t suited for my program and won’t get the results for which they would have signed up for. (It wouldn’t be fair to them.) The “Confidence 101” ™ course is NOT for those who have no money coming in and are absolutely, financially desperate, at least not right away. It’s been my experience that people in financial crisis do not trust the recommendations I give them and do not do the work (probably because they spend so much time worrying about where they are going to get next month’s rent check or mortgage payment.) If you fall within this category, it’s absolutely OK. We’ve all been in times of financial crisis at one point or another. Do yourself (3) favours:
Get some money coming in with a full-time or part-time job at the very least, and then call me. This will take the edge off and provide a little more peace of mind. Mostly, it will de-clutter your mind enough to focus on your “Confidence 101” ™ assignments and the BIG picture. Once you start feeling more confident as a result of your work, you can watch all areas of your life soar.
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Doing these three things will really help you get primed for our work. When you’re ready, call me and we’ll get you started. (I’m in no rush and will be here when you need me.) Other types of personalities I won’t work with (without exception) are the whiners or chronic skeptics, as well as individuals who consistently make excuses for not getting their assignments done or challenging every aspect of the course. If you are one of these people, I gently and respectfully ask that you not call and I hope you understand why. We’ll probably just not work well together, and I wouldn’t want you to waste your time or money. Is that fair?
What exactly is your “Confidence 101” ™ course and what does it include?
“Confidence 101” ™ begins with understanding your true value, where your power really comes from, how to manifest what you want (including feeling more energised and confident), creating powerful intentions that get you results around your health and fitness goals. Here’s what the course gets you to do:
Welcome and Introduction
Introducing you to the course, looking at your goals and what you are want to achieve.
1. Module 1 - Visualising Your Future
We examine where you are in your health and lifestyle and get CRYSTAL clear about your intentions, what you want to experience in your personal life and feel about yourself. Before you can manifest what you want you have to KNOW what you want. We’ll re-look at the non-negotiables and priorities in your life you’ve allowed to be pushed to one side and bring them back. You’ll learn how to create a visualisation board, how to set monthly/ weekly goals, daily intentions to manifest the confidence and energy you desire. We’ll look at the biggest mistakes women make when trying to create new habits and how to prevent you going down the slippery slope by applying the law of attraction to your mind and body.
2. Module 2 - Releasing negativity, building a strong mind
You might already know what you need to be doing but yet are still struggling in procrastination, feeling stuck and find yourself spinning in circles. You’ll learn techniques of how to break through your inner resistance (naughty negative monkeys); self-doubt, fear, anxiety and all that “stuff” that keeps you playing small. You’ll learn how to re-train your brain to accept and release those thoughts; finally allowing you to think abundantly so you can take ACTION towards your goals without being restricted by your limiting beliefs.
3. Module 3 - Eating for energy
We’ll look at a healthy mindset approach to a balanced style of eating food. Notice I didn’t say diet… because the word diet to many of us = restriction. I don’t want you to feel restricted, gone are the days where you have to watch calories like a hawk. I want you to re-learn how to eat nutrients for your body… not what the boxes tell you or the money grabbing food companies. We are going to look at “what’s in your fridge,” and buying whole foods that your body is going to THRIVE on! You’ll also develop a healthy mindset approach by eating 80% healthy food and 20% enjoying all the yummy treats you love. You’ll get to a place where you no longer worry about 60% of the aisles, your shopping trips will be so quick, and every time you go to checkout it’ll make you smile because of the rainbow of healthy goodness you’ve CHOSEN!
4. Module 4 - Exercising for fun
Exercise is amazing, for your mind, body and overall confidence. We’ll go over various different styles of exercise and how they can impact your mind and body. We’ll look at yoga, running, stretching, core workouts you can do at home etc. During this module, you’ll have time to brainstorm all the fitness and exercise YOU love and how you’re going to incorporate them into your new awesome healthy lifestyle. When you love the exercise you’re doing, it will no longer feel like a chore, it will become effortless and the most exciting thing of all is… watching your body, confidence, fitness and energy skyrocket!
5. Module 5 - Relaxing and unwinding
It’s time to get your comfy pants on and relax! Do you know what one of the first signs of illness is? Stress! If you want inner confidence that shines, it’s not going to happen when the ball of wool in your head is so tight you can’t think straight. In this module we’ll get up-close and excited about science on the body, delving into the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems. You’ll learn breathing techniques, an absolute game changer which helps you to deal with anxiety and stress by engaging your parasympathetic nervous system - taking you away from the “fight or flight” stressful feeling. We’ll go through food exercises, learning how to be mindful of our food and to bring your attention to the present moment. You’ll also get the chance to brainstorm ideas of how you can create healthy boundaries for yourself around social media, family and work.
6. Module 6 - Morning & night - time routines
Healthy habits done daily creates confidence! We’ll look at your current morning and night time routine, analyse what’s working for you and what areas you’d like to improve. You’ll brainstorm new ideas to benefit your health, mind and body including morning exercise, mindfulness, gratitude writing, reading, affirmations, healthy food choices etc. We’ll go back to the drawing board, and in a safe, loving environment you’ll learn how to implement these chosen healthy habits to create your ULTIMATE morning and night time routines you are going to love! Getting healthy doesn’t have to be hard, it’s about showing up, owning your new healthy habits and loving the improved lifestyle you’ve created.
7. Module 7 - De-cluttering
“The things you own, end up owning you.” - Fight Club. This has to be one of my favourite quotes. The stuff you own holds energy! Whether you believe it or not, every time you put on a piece of clothing subconsciously it either brings up good or bad memories, feelings of guilt, frustration, happiness or sadness. This goes across the board of everything you own: from clothing, kitchenware, bathroom, ornaments, files, paperwork, tools, make-up - you name it! Just picture for a moment, imagine all the stuff around you is stuff you actually love / want and need in your life? We’ll give you a brilliant checklist of questions you can use to have a thorough top to toe detox of everything you own. Trust me the weight lifted from this exercise alone is insane, you’ll feel like a new woman!
8. Module 8 - Creating healthy boundaries
Creating healthy boundaries is so important to your health and well-being. If you are a people pleaser and find yourself running around after everyone else but never make time for yourself… this module will be a game changer! We will look at how to stand up for yourself, how to say no, how to take a compliment and how to not let others negative thoughts throw you off and put you down.
9. Owning your confidence
OMG you are so nearly ready… the last finishing touches. You’ve got your house in order, your exercising, eating healthy, getting good sleep, doing things you love that fill you up… last but not least… it’s about OWNING it. In this module, we go through the very basics of how to walk confidently out that door! How to feel confident and relaxed in conversations, networking, talking in public. We will touch on discovering your body shape and colours. So… when that camera come out at that next event you are ready with new-found confidence!
Wahoo… you did it, you amazing strong woman! We’ll celebrate your incredible success here. The foundation of your cake has been made, we’ll look at everything you’ve accomplished through the programme and the tools we’ve equipped you to take with you for life. Now it’s time to keep on learning, staying consistent with everything you’ve learned and unleashing the strong, beautiful, confident you to the world. You’ve got this!
Does this really work?
Yes! The result of our work is an approach to shifting your mindset and believing you are worthy, you are enough and beautiful just the way you are. It’s stepping away from those limiting beliefs and learning to be kind to yourself and feel confident in who you are, nourishing it with healthy food, implementing self-care practices and exercising that makes you feel strong and fit. (See Testimonials)
What results can I expect?
You can expect to:
Let go and release old negative thought patterns that have been holding you back
Have big breakthroughs and ah-ha moments
Rewrite your story
Learn self-acceptance and how to be kind to your inner gremlins / naughty monkeys - (self-doubts, fears and insecurities around your self-worth)
Implementing daily affirmations and gratitude writing to re-wire your brain to think positively and abundantly
Discover yourself, set goals and vision boards
Learn how to self-nurture and fill your glass up
Develop more compassion for yourself and others
Create new standards for yourself and raise your self-esteem
Create healthy boundaries for yourself
Learn how to say NO and honour your yes and no’s
Health benefits, living stress-free, implementing new strategies to manage your stress, relaxation techniques, mindfulness
Falling in love with exercise and feeling your body getting fitter and stronger
Creating a healthy mindset around food, enjoying everything in moderation. 80% Healthy/ 20% Treats
De-clutter your spaces of stuff, only having what you love / want and need
Finding your happiness, doing things you love again
Gain unshakeable self-confidence – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment just in itself)
Feel empowered & excited about the future
Reaching for your passions in life
Can I read some of your testimonials and find out more about what you’re like as a person?
Yes, I encourage you to! Please go to the Client Testimonials page and read all of them.
How quickly can I expect results?
That depends on how quickly you can make those inner shifts. Some clients are ready to go and feel more confident in a very short time frame, sometimes even a few weeks while others have a bit more work to do first. It also depends on how much you VALUE discovering your confidence. Our inner gremlins or naughty monkeys, the fears, self-doubts and our insecurities often hold us back the most. This is often where people struggle the most or being held accountable and making sure they follow through with their actions, for example, going to that fitness class or buying the healthy shopping list they intended to buy.
How can I guarantee myself that I will gain more confidence, in record time?
Do all of your homework. Be totally committed to your success. Understand that this is a process, a proven one, that works if you take action and implement all of the steps. All my clients who have diligently applied every step of “Confidence 101” ™ have successfully gained confidence, in much less time than they would have on their own AND have totally re-wired the way they think about themselves, the value of healthy food and exercise to make them feel like a MILLION DOLLARS!
Rachel, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. What are my options for getting started with you?
Congratulations on making a decision for success! You are one step closer to owning the confidence you crave and desire. I’m happy to work with you to achieve your goals… There are 3 ways to work with me. Either one to one, in my group programme or you can do the online course solo. I prefer to work one to one with my clients to really help them gain FASTER results and am now offering a more intense program for groups of women. To get started with owning your confidence, have more energy and feel abundantly happier, here is the program I’ve created for you:
Confidence 101 ™
OK, I’m ready to do this for myself, but I have a couple of additional questions. Can I call you?
Good, sounds like you’re ready to be pulled into your future! Yes, if you have a couple of questions, just email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or BOOK a breakthrough call with me and I’ll be happy to walk you through the different options to see which one will be the very best for you. I can’t wait to see you empowered walking with confidence. I’m honoured to be the one to help you. Let’s get going!
The power is in you…
Love and hugs,